10 reasons why I told myself not to trust you, but you proved me wrong anyway

1. Serious-minded

Six or seven years of knowing you, this side of yours just never failed to find it's way of pissing me off every, single, time. Something fun comes up, you're always there to burst the bubble. Giving "us" a third shot was not on my priority list four years ago. You were always serious, always focusing on the reality, always on the negative. Yet look at me now, coming back to you like a magnet that is helplessly attracted to a shiny metal plate. The fact that you have always been so serious when it comes to our relationship, never failed to make me feel safe every, single, time. I always questioned myself if I really deserved that kind of security from you. I guess I am still finding the right answer until now. And for that, thank you.

2. Timid

For a guy who's not a basketball player, and says that he's way out of my league, being timid cannot be denied on this one. You told me before that if you compared yourself to my past boyfriends, you'd never really fit to the standards. And you asked me why I settled with you. Well my answer is this, you may not be a 6 footer basketball player body builder junkie in other people's eyes, but to me you're way more than that. Out of all those boys I've dated, you're the only one who knew that the only solution to my problems is one box of chili beef yumpanadas. You're the only guy who discovered my bipolar love for lesbians, hence, orange is the new black. You're the person, literally the only person, who gave me a bouquet made out of bacon. And for that, thank you.

3. Superficial

I guess you got this trait growing up in an environment with such different philosophies with mine. This was our latest struggle as a couple. We just couldn't agree. I told myself that if it's not in your vocabulary to respect my views as a person then I should end it. It took me three sleepless nights, a bottle of alcohol and a box of cigarettes, before we made up, and believe me it was torture. That was the only way I know to get through our problem. You being superficial, I just had to accept it. The same way you accepted mine. Even though it was way beyond your understanding, we got through. And for that, thank you.

4. Immature

This I'm sure I cannot get rid of. We had our bad days and the good. But nothing compares to putting up with your silly knock knock jokes that made me question and reevaluate my life choices. Our past two relationships ended mainly because of this reason. You were just too immature, or maybe I was too. You get mad over the smallest issues that weren't supposed to be there in the first place. But now I find it's purpose. Your trait always turns my day around. I'm bored, you tell me a joke. I'm on my period, you tell me jokes about my menstrual cycle. I'm mad at you, you think of the corniest joke that ever existed just to make me laugh and avoid the argument. And for that, thank you.

5. Impatient

I think this is the most accurate way of describing you in one word. You are so impatient about everything. Specifically when we have to go out and you suddenly get strict about what time are we going to leave. You get pissed when I do not comply with your "time is gold" bullcrap. But there are other things that make you adorable when your patience runs out. A: When we haven't "porked" in a couple of weeks. B: When you haven't watched porn in a couple of days. C: When I haven't replied to your message in a couple of hours. I know I told you I hate the clingy type, but I'm thinking of changing my mind after six months of being in a weird relationship with you. And for that, thank you.

6. Tightfisted

I mean just because you have a Chinese surname does not mean you have to live up to it. My past relationships included boys with Chinese surnames too and they were also as tightfisted as you. They all did not worked out, so I said to myself, why bother risking it again with you? I found a counter-statement. You were tightfisted about some things, but definitely not the attention you showered me with. You were always there, whatever the scenario is. And for that, thank you.

7. You always speak your mind

Unlike other guys, you have your own philosophy. It may not go along well with the norm, which obviously sets you apart from the typical guys. At first I was threatened. I was always used to being the dominant one in the relationship. I was always told that I should be the one doing the thinking. In this case, it was different. Although you told me that you wouldn't limit my habits nor my views, even though it contradicted with yours. I loved the way that even though we speak from different POVs, we always tend to meet in the middle. You speak, yet you listen, and we compromise. And for that, thank you.

8. Self-conscious

(See "timid") Forget the insecurities. You managed to put up with me, when other people didn't. You were able to dig into my five layers of loath, anger, mistrust, hatred and self-doubt. If I were you I would consider that a lifetime achievement. You've done enough. And for that, thank you.

9. Stubborn

You. Are. So. Stubborn. You refuse to change your mind and stick with your values. At first I found it hard to keep up with a guy like you. Like I said, you were different. Probably that's why I picked you. I found a guy worth keeping because he has his own standards. Hopefully I fit right into his, just like he fits right into mine. I just wanted to let you know that whoever you are now, I am willing to accept it. And if you ever make changes to yourself, I will willingly support them. And whatever choice you make in the future, I got your back 100 percent. I'm pretty sure you'd do the same for me. And for that, thank you.

10. Hard headed

(See "stubborn") This is pretty much why I never get bored with you. I told you before that I easily get tired with my past boyfriends who did nothing but the cliche stuff. You got nervous and I told you, you were stupid enough to think that it might happen to us too. I said it once and I'm saying it again, no matter how many times we give this thing a chance and get back together again, I will never get tired of you. I hope you will never get tired of me too. You are the most hard headed person I know, (except my dogs who are way more hard headed than you), and for that, thank you.

"If I could put all my past lovers and every single person who's ever hurt me in a single room, I would run to you over and over again. If I had someone to break my heart all the times they've dented mine, I would choose you to set it on fire and shatter it every time. I would choose you the moment I open my eyes and I would choose you when the alcohol is in my system. I choose you the moment the melatonin knocks me out and I choose you when I am lonely on a rainy day. I choose you when I am frustrated in a research paper and I choose you when I need to bawl over the death of my favorite characters. I will always choose you. And I will still choose you even when you don't choose me"

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